Heads up! This isn’t a judgement about men and women who choose to color their gray. It’s about my choice to let my hair “betray” my age. I wish that it was a simple decision but the pressure to pretend that we’re immune to looking a day over 30 is immense. I’ve shared that Barbara Bush was a silver hair inspiration for me. Then, this summer, I had been eyeing the silver hair of a very stylish, elegant lady who attends my church. I finally approached her and let her know how much I loved it! Her response? “Thanks! And it’s so cheap to maintain!” I laughed because that’s some good old New England thrift right there, not to mention self-confidence!
There is nothing shameful or ugly about going gray. It also doesn’t mean that women who choose to not color their hair are “letting themselves go”. I figure I’m saving hundreds of dollars every year, too, not to mention saving my health by not exposing myself to the toxic chemicals in hair dyes!
It is getting easier for me to accept that it’s fine to have hair or anything else about my appearance for that matter that others may find unacceptable. It doesn’t mean that I’m immune to feeling hurt sometimes but I no longer stay in that place. I also no longer spend money on something that doesn’t matter to me as a temporary illusory means to feel better about myself.
The more I focus on what I truly value, the simpler decision-making becomes. I just wish that it was easier sometimes.
Can anyone reading this relate? I’d love to read your thoughts on self-acceptance and going gray!